Rescue a Child Bride
In communities where poverty and illiteracy are rife, you invariably see girls under the age of eighteen being married to men often much older.
When families live under dire circumstances, parents often have no choice but to witness their daughters leaving the family home to start their own family. Some girls are as young as eleven when they are promised to a man.
In North Africa “Marriage brokers” can take girls from the age of eleven from villages to rich Arab visitors staying in hotels in poor countries in North Africa. A one day "pleasure marriage" can be arranged by the “marriage brokers” for as little as $100 which is then split between the broker and the child’s parents. Or there is a summer long marriages which can be charged between $1500 and $8000.
Girls in North Africa can be as young as 11 when they get married.
For the duration of the marriage, this temporary contract offers a way to outwit Islamic restrictions on pre-martial sex and allows the husband and wife to stay in the same hotel rooms or apartments. This legally binding contract then ceases when the man chooses to return to his home country. Some families see this as an opportunity for their daughter but invariably their poverty forces them to make such choices.
But the debate on child marriage is not restricted to religious viewpoints but more prominently on cultural expectations. In some communities in North Africa, the expectation is that when a girl hits puberty then she ought to be married and most likely to a cousin or relative. Parents often see little point in waiting further when the child already appears to have developed fully into a woman.
Furthermore, cultural expectations, in some communities, suggest that girls do not require an education. So, illiteracy perpetuates the problem of child marriage.
If a child has not had the opportunity to complete her primary or middle school education then there is a higher chance that she will be married below the age of eighteen. Her illiteracy will not enable her to be able to leave a spiralling circle of deprivation or an opportunity to progress in further education.
When girls particularly under the age of sixteen, are married, the risk of abuse, both physically and physiologically, is high. In addition, girls are more likely to miscarry in pregnancy or experience severe complications in their pregnancy. These difficulties can lead to unprecedented amounts of trauma to the girls and can stunt physical and mental development.
Many girls under the age of eighteen are not emotionally ready for the challenges of marriage so they too face many difficulties of knowing how to manage a home, a husband and a family effectively. Again, this adds pressure on the girl and can cause long term emotional damage.
Despite people knowing these facts and awareness being made across North Africa, girls are still being married at a young age.
Many families resist change because it is altering age old traditions and beliefs. In addition, many families see little point on changing rules on child marriage because once they have found a suitor willing to pay a dowry, it seems apt that the marriage takes place, however, young the girl.
But, it is clear that if people and communities continue to insist that all girls have the opportunity to a full education then these girls will be empowered to make their own choices on their future, and when they are ready to marry and ready to start a family.
Education for parents is required in order for them to be fully aware of the risks of child marriage and the importance of education for girls.
If this is done sensitively and respectfully then a future generation of females will be empowered to make healthy choices about their bodies and about future decisions, especially in further education. If this is done correctly, who knows what impact that could have on North African society.